For Couples
Couples Therapy:
Being in a relationship can be a wonderful source of personal growth and satisfaction, but it can also be challenging and difficult at times. Even healthy, strong relationships have present issues to work through if they are to remain vibrant and fulfilling.
Much of what we learn about relationships comes from our experiences growing up and in our prior relationship history. Often these experiences may leave our relationship skills “education” incomplete or with gaps. In addition, many couples struggle to adapt to changes within the relationship over time. They may not know how to go about healing when a hurt has occurred; instead it gets swept under the rug. Couple therapy can help you to reconnect more effectively with your partner and promote a more intimate connection together.
Rest assured, the focus in couple therapy is not to lay blame, or determine who is “right” or “wrong” but to help both of you make changes to improve the health of your relationship.
Couples therapy sessions can help you to:
- Identify and change unhealthy patterns of relating that get in the way of both of you enjoying the relationship more fully
- Feel empowered to communicate your feelings and needs in a safe, facilitated environment
- Move from stuck, defensive ways of relating to a more real sharing of hopes, concerns
- Learn skills to increase the chances of being heard and to talk through problems rather than cut off or fight
- Explore your own unique history and how this has shaped your learning about relating to a partner
- Examine your ideas about relationships and build a vision for a better future together
What clients have said:
“My husband and I have benefited greatly from our joint sessions with Alex. Both of us appreciated that Alex helped us move from a focus of fighting over who was right and wrong to a focus on how to heal and grow the relationship between us. It was a big shift.”
“My partner and I were in a circle that kept going around and around. I kept trying to solve her problems because I didn’t know how to help her. Having a third party there to jump in before the circle went around too many times was really good.”
“We were so used to talking to each other in this automatic way at home. I always thought “I know what she’s thinking, we’ve been together so long”. I found out I wasn’t always right and that was the start of something better.”
“Being in a relationship takes work. The biggest help was in learning how to focus on ourselves versus the other person. It’s still hard sometimes, but we are better able to talk through things instead of fight and hurt each other.”
Ready to take the next step?
Research and clinical experience shows consistently that couple therapy is most successful when both partners want to work on the relationship. I work with couples who fit this criterion. If you are concerned about a relationship but have a partner who is reluctant or not wanting to coming in, don’t despair! I recommend individual therapy as a starting point that can really help.
To get in touch to set up a couple therapy appointment, click here
